Finding True Magic, the blog

I am going to tell you a powerful secret. I am about to give you a powerful all-purpose tool for taming your mind, your emotional states and your compulsions. I give it in various forms to all my clients.

In fact,  I had just given it to a client the day before I went to a local chain store for some sundries.  Here it is:  “I wish you perfect happiness.”

Simply repeat this to your mind, to your inner critic, to your anger (or jealousy or insecurity or fear), to parts of your body that ache. Have the intention that you are directing this blessing — “I wish you perfect happiness” — to your thoughts, sensations, emotions,  or urges AND to the source of whatever is creating them.

Focus and breathe. Deliver the blessing. Breathe. Relax as much as possible. Then re-focus and repeat the process several times. Notice what happens!

This is a very powerful practice. I have given it to the most unhappy and confused clients and it always makes a difference for them. Find out for yourself. You can also practice it with friends and enemies and strangers — even if you just say it silently to yourself. Say it to each passing driver as you’re driving down the road.

Even though I use this daily with clients and practice it myself, I’m still surprised by the way it comes to me. Which brings me back my experience of going to the store for the purchase of sundries. I had paid for my purchase  and was turning to leave when the clerk looked me in the eye and said, “All good things to you today.” And she meant it!

I actually had a little startle response,  it was such an unexpected surprise. It hadn’t been that long since I’d read the morning paper, so I probably had some subtle (or not-so-subtle) conditioning going on, to regard the world as a dark and depressing place. This grocery clerk with the nice smile and good wishes showed me that Love may be quite active in this world despite the headlines. Love can actually drown out  the incessant chatter of TV — it can go right under the radar of the chaos and cynicism.

And we can all expand Love’s influence in the same simple way that this clerk is doing. Her phrase is worded differently than the blessing I give out, but the message is the same. And the real key? She meant it — from the heart! Seeing her smile at me, hearing that blessing, changed my mind and made my day.

I still went out for coffee and read the paper again this morning. But this time I remembered the clerk and her blessing, and I blessed everyone I read about as I was reading. Let’s all do it! It doesn’t cost anything and it’s a simple, effective way to practice loving kindness.

I wish you perfect happiness . . . and I’m sure my new friend at the grocery store wishes you all good things today, too!

And sometimes it’s nice to have a little extra help. Try this audio CD — it’s one of my most popular ones –on Stress Relief, Rejuvenation & Empowerment. Or this one, Becoming Fearless & Compassionate.

I think you’ll enjoy this very funny video of Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche speaking on practicing loving kindness and compassion:

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Jack Elias, CHT is founder and director of the Institute for Therapeutic Learning in Seattle, Washington. He is the author of Finding True Magic: Transpersonal Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy/NLP, a book and course which blends NLP training modalities with philosophical traditions of both East and West. Jack offers private sessions in Lucid Heart Therapy and Life Coaching. He offers live trainings and distance learning trainings in Transpersonal Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy/NLP. Jack also presents keynotes and other programs to teach audiences how to use the techniques of  Transpersonal Hypnotherapy/NLP to achieve success, confidence, and a consistent sense of well-being.  Book Jack Elias to speak to your group or organization.