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How to Be Kind to Yourself Every Day

Through our attempts at self-improvement, it is definitely possible to create gaps in our mind-trances, and through these gaps we can experience the happiness of our innate purity. But as long as we identify these experiences of beauty and openness as the product of the mind, as the product of our own efforts, we will miss the fullest appreciation of ourselves and our lives.

We really don’t need self-improvement. Our happiness is assured, if we’re willing to learn (and practice) true self-love and self-appreciation. Continue reading

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What’s Love (and Empathy) Got to Do with Relationships on Valentine’s Day?

What would it look like to give love without expecting anything in return? Isn’t that only for saints, or monks . . . or worse, won’t it mean submitting and becoming a doormat? Not at all. Giving unconditional love arises from a sense of your own unconditional OK-ness. It may be necessary to do some work to reacquaint yourself with your basic goodness, of course. But once you have reconnected with your self-worth, you’re able to be generous with your partner and with yourself. Continue reading

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Easy Good Habits: Put Your Attention Where Your Heart Is

Getting stuck in anxious energy and busyness, but getting nowhere. Does this sound familiar? I call it “running in place,” and it’s a sure sign that I’ve stopped giving myself love and compassion. When you notice yourself doing this, don’t think, “I have to stop this.” Instead, think, “Oh! I’m running-in-place! I must be denying myself love and compassion.”

Then if you like, you can put your hand to your heart as you do in the Hands Over Heart Technique I mentioned in this earlier post. . . . Continue reading

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Easy Good Habits: The Courage to Be Kind

In the last post, I mentioned making the conscious effort to soften your heart with patience and kindness (and therefore courage). Were you surprised to see “courage” in there?

Did it surprise you to think that softening your heart, consciously becoming more patient and kind through consistent effort, takes courage?

If it did surprise you, please consider that it is an act of courage when you resist the fearful habitual thought patterns that keep you stuck, or anxiously running-in-place inside yourself, unable to move forward.

It is possible to make major shifts — to easily make true and lasting positive change in any area of your life — when you call on the courage to be kind. Continue reading

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Easy Good Habits: Soften Up with Kindness and Compassion

I believe that the start of a new year is a great time to shake things up a little.

So . . . here’s a radical three-part notion:

1. When you soften your heart with patience and kindness (and therefore courage), positive thoughts are able to make a greater impact on your mind.
2. When you strengthen your positive thoughts, it automatically becomes much easier to change your perspective and make things work.
3. Therefore, the most powerful thing you can do to create a positive mind-state — the state from which flows all creativity, health and wellbeing, as well as worldly success — is to allow your heart to soften.

How do you soften up? You’re really going to enjoy this . . .

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Don’t Try So Hard! Not Your Average New Year’s Resolutions

Happy New Year! Amazing to think it’s already 2014. Is your inbox flooded with messages about keeping your New Year’s Resolutions? I promise this will not be just another ‘how to’ message for you. (If you like, you can skip … Continue reading

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More About “What DO Thoughts Think About?”

I want to share some additional perspectives about my previous blog, “What DO Thoughts Think About?” “Thoughts think about other thoughts” is a subtle topic; it’s importance can easily be missed, and working with it can seem boring and pointless … Continue reading

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What Do Thoughts Think About?

Want to make someone pause? Ask them, “What do thoughts think about?” Ask yourself. Try to think about something that is not a thought — if you can, let me know! Why is this important? Well, most significantly it means … Continue reading

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Short & Sweet — Healing Negative Self Talk and Self Hatred

A big part of the transformational process is challenging negative self talk (mean and nasty internal dialogue) again and again to look at and to cut through the roots and causes of self hatred.
I have been struck lately by several clients’ acceptance of negative self talk and judgments – what they describe as self-judgment and self-hatred. Along with this mind state comes the fear of criticism from others, as if it was a fact of nature that they are deserving of just about any negative judgment that comes their way. . . . Continue reading

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8 Secrets of Successful Dating – Who Hypnotizes Whom?

Jack Elias, CHT teaches you the Continue reading

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